Does Penis Size Matter? Not Really, Here’s Why

By Andrew

Updated 16 July 2021

The obsession with penis size has bedevilled men for eons.

This fixation is even more pronounced in this modern age of the super-sized everything. Bigger seems to automatically mean better.

Does a larger penis translate to a better sexual experience for women? Does penis size really matter?

The funny thing is, not really.

Men are naturally competitive, and penis size seems to be one more thing to lose sleep over. What is lost on most men is that size does not make you better at pleasing a woman in the same way that bigger fists do not make a better boxer.

Sex is a game of skill, where effort and knowing what to do counts. Women make no secret of this, and consistently prefer skill over size.

Whats the average penis size?

Size is relative, so it makes sense to define exactly what is meant by small, medium, or large.

The best way of doing this is to know exactly what men all over the world are packing between the thighs through collective research.

Science has proven this through numerous studies spanning the last 70 years. The verdict from one study, after the scrutinising of over 11,000 penises, was that the average penis size ranges between 5.5 and 6.2 inches (14 – 15.75 cm) long when erect.

Furthermore, the variation between the middle ranges of penis size was only 1/4 of an inch. This means most women (or men) cannot accurately differentiate normal penises just by looking.

This is unless a penis is unusually small (under 4 inches) or large (over 7.5 inches). The overly hyped racial differences in penis size are also unproven scientifically, despite their popularity.

The largest penis ever is documented at 18.9 inches.

85% of women are happy with their partner’s penis size

The study went a step further and asked women what they thought about penis size.

This is the answer that really matters, right?

Well, after speaking to over 50,000 men and women, the study established that 85% of women were happy with their partner’s penis size. Just in case you forgot, that is a size between 5.5 to 6.2 inches long.

The strange discovery was that only 55% of men were happy with their size. This goes to show that too many men fret about size more than they should.

Women on the other hand, have better things to think about during sex. You are therefore better off not bothering with your penis size too.

Is there an ideal penis size?

All penises are different, and women know this. The same way all breasts look different, penises come in various shapes and sizes. This means there is no way of determining the perfect type.

Women are more concerned about your skills in the sack than the size of your member.

When asked to choose between a larger penis and better sexual skills, women pick skills every time. This is because it is a man’s skill that is sexually satisfying, not the size of the tool. What you can do with your penis is actually a woman’s biggest concern.

Additionally, your penis looks much more impressive when viewed full frontal by a woman, rather than from an angle by you. Bonus tip: you can also add a visually impressive inch just by shaving the surrounding neighbourhood.

Where do all the inches go?

Before you wish for a larger member, it pays to consider where you will be packing all that flesh. A vagina is only about 3 inches long when not fully aroused, and swells about another inch during sex. This makes the vagina a perfect fit for every size of penis. This makes most of that impressive rod you are packing very unnecessary.

Furthermore, only the front third of the vagina actually has the sensitive nerves your penis is supposed to stimulate. This means all your efforts should be geared towards pleasuring the front of the vagina, and not its deeper reaches. This is why in a recent study, 90% of all women said they prefer a thicker penis. A long one did nothing to increase pleasure.

How to up your game

Obsessing about the size of your penis will only dent your self-confidence and lower your self-esteem. This will make it harder for you to get any sex in the first place, or enjoy it at all. Men with larger penises get more sexual partners for one simple reason – they have more confidence. After all, the women did not know of the size of the prize beforehand.

The best way to rise to the top of the game is to learn sexual techniques and skills that women enjoy immensely. These include improving areas around foreplay and oral sex. Additionally, there are many sexual positions that maximize the effect of your penis, resulting in greater pleasure for your partner.

These are the skills that increase your confidence, make you a sensual lover, and make women crave for you.

Stop obsessing over size, start skilling up.

About the Author: Andrew

Andrew has spent the past 15 years running Spafe.com.au, Australia’s leading site for everything condoms. Having personally tested countless brands and products, he’s become a trusted expert in the field. Andrew’s hands-on experience and honest reviews help Aussies find the right fit.
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